Measure Of A Man

I have had the amazing opportunity to know and love this man every single day for the last ten years. Within the first few years together we instantly became best friends. We were young, inseparable, and in love. All this time, I have had the chance to witness his love in the ways he has chosen to relentlessly portray it. Like all relationships, we too have had our fair share of bumps in the road. And it hasn’t always been easy to get past them but we always managed to push through because of the foundation of friendship we built together. Our willingness to forgive and love each other, even in the darkest of moments, is one of the reasons I believe we are so close.

One of the main ways my husband shows his love is by acts of service. Specifically, it is one of his love languages. If he does something for me or anyone, even if it is something small, then that is him intentionally showing his love. His natural love language literally means that actions speak louder than words. The thing is, my husband is constantly doing big things for me and my daughter that exude with the expression of that love. His sacrifices to provide for us and his willingness to help even when it isn’t even asked are just some of those ways.

The 5 Love Languages, By: Gary Chapman – For those of you interested in what love languages are. 

When you look at the bible, and specifically John 13:1-5 and John 13:12-17, you notice that one of the main actions of service done by Jesus had to do with the washing of feet. It was not only an expression of humility and service but ultimately it was an expression of His love. Jesus’ symbolism of the washing of the feet was to be an example set for those who know Him or those who are of Him so that they would, in turn, show that same humility, servanthood, and love towards another.

” 12. When he had washed their feet and put on his outer garments and resumed his place, he said to them, “Do you understand what I have done to you? 13. You call me Teacher and Lord, and you are right, for so I am. 14. If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet. 15. For I have given you an example, that you also should do just as I have done to you. 16. Truly, truly, I say to you, a servant is not greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. 17. If you know these things, blessed are you if you do them.” –

John 13:12-17, ESV

In a lot of ways, I believe that my husband’s expression of love is based on the example as it is shown in John 13. Whether he consciously knows it or not, I believe that it is because of his faith and love for Christ that he naturally portrays his love in a similar Christ-like manner. He is of Him so he radiates Him through his actions of love. One of the first things stated in Ephesians 5:25-27 is that husbands are instructed to love their wives as Christ loved the church.

“25. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26. that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27. so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.”

Ephesians 5:25-27, ESV

To me, this verse is just another affirmation of my husband’s expressions of love that also speaks to his faith and love of Christ. Because Christ showed his love to the Church with the example of the washing of the feet; through his actions of service. When you go to the beginning of Ephesians 5:1 it shines a light on the reference of the example of love once again. That we should be imitators of God and walk in love just as Christ did, taking from Christ’s example of love and emulating that love onto others. As his wife, I think it’s a beautiful blessing to be on the receiving end of that love and be able to witness his imitation of Christ through that.

“1. Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. 2. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.”

Ephesians 5:1-2, ESV

I am in love with the example my husband is to me and my daughter daily. His heart radiates so much more than I think he realizes and I am grateful for what that means for our marriage, our family, and his friends. Despite our circumstance, whether good or bad, I know, as clear as the moon itself, that I can rely on the ever-present love my husband enjoys to give. The measure of a man is love and the love shown by him because of Him displays the exuberant measure of his heart.

“The measure of a man is love.” -Fred Feliciano


Thank you for stopping by Untamed Rose Blog today. I hope you enjoyed my entry. All the photos were taken by me and are not available to share. Thanks. For questions or inquiries feel free to comment down below or email me! -URB

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